Published: October 28, 2009 08:06 am      

Dear Abby: Woman’s predatory boss eager to score again

DEAR ABBY: I attended a business-related function with my boss and some co-workers. I had way too much to drink and ended up having sex with my boss. (He offered me a ride to my car and took advantage of me.) If I had been sober, it would never have happened.

Since then, my boss continues to pursue me even though I have made it clear that it was a mistake and something I truly regret. I have no interest in this man. He is married, and it sickens me every time I think about it. I am too ashamed to discuss this with anyone, but my boss won’t leave me alone. Please tell me what I should do. — EMBARRASSED IN CHICAGO

DEAR EMBARRASSED: Your boss is acting like a sexual predator and has from the beginning. If you haven’t been documenting his harassment, begin to do so immediately. If anyone has seen him put the moves on you, so much the better. You should also discuss this with an attorney, and because you are “embarrassed,” make it a woman.



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DEAR ABBY: I am regularly invited out to eat by either of two friends, both of whom are very wealthy. I have noticed that neither one leaves a 15 percent tip. They usually leave 10 or 12 percent.

I feel uncomfortable when they don’t leave a server what I consider to be the minimum appropriate tip. Would it be OK for me to add to the tip they are leaving? I don’t want to offend them. Please advise. — RED-FACED IN RICHMOND, CALIF.



DEAR RED-FACED: If you can find a way to do it discreetly, without embarrassing your host, I am sure your generosity would be appreciated by the server.