Published: May 05, 2008 11:34 am            

Involve children in family decisions

One of the many goals parents have for their children is to teach them responsibility. One way to do that is to let them take part in household decisions.

This involvement also helps children develop knowledge and skills that will last a lifetime. When a family works together, each member recognizes that he or she has an important role in the day-to-day functioning of the family.

One way to keep everyone involved is to make household chores a family effort. While parents may think it is faster and easier to do these jobs themselves, allowing children to help teaches them self-reliance and cooperation.

It is important to give children age-appropriate assignments. Also, avoid giving a child the same job week after week. Variety gives children diverse experiences.

If a large task needs to be done, break it into smaller parts. Compile a short, simple list of who is responsible for what. It's also a good idea to give your children advance notice of upcoming chores. Whenever possible work with your child on the chores. Children enjoy it when they work along-side their parents.

One thing parents should avoid is complaining when a child does not do a task as they would. Be patient, appreciative and generous with praise when a child completes a chore.

Use the team approach for yard work so the whole family enjoys the great outdoors. After completing the yard work, take time for a game of croquet or play hide-and-seek. Also, try to spend more time as a family when the television is turned off. Play educational games or just games for fun. Talk about what each person did during the day.

Parents should involve children in other family decisions such as purchasing a new television, a new vehicle or a family vacation. In addition, planning a family service project together is another way to involve children in family decision.

These activities can help children learn what issues to think about in such decisions, consider responsibilities and values and develop a sense of positive contribution.

Spending time together as a family is a pleasure to enjoy and anticipate. These times together will create memories that will last a lifetime.

For questions on this article or to schedule a program in the family and consumer science area, contact Janna Kelley at the Pontotoc County OSU Cooperative Extension Service by phone at 580-332-2153 or by e-mail at janna.kelley@okstate.edu

        

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